For you!

As I decide to clean my inbox and simultaneously listen to ‘Don’t even try’. I see some messages which made me feel weird, messages from old friends, actually lost friends.
So why do we kill friends and the ship sinks? Well, let me remember when I did that:
When we had different interests
When he/she did not make me feel good anymore
When I stop trying and it became clear I was the one pushing for it

Friendships are not like your normal relationships. It is not like dumping a girl or a guy. It is about the hard fact that everything has an expiry date, that friends are maybe stepping stones to something which help you know more about the human behaviour and make you feel prepared to face the world alone, and be comfortable with not sharing your grave with anyone.

No, I am not mad. I tried watching some seasons of “How I met your mother” and I hate it!
I can sit and watch some realistic tele, maybe “Modern family” for million years. But, no Barney nonsense can I tolerate. Gave me a headache.

Back to my inbox, to all those I am not in touch with anymore
(all means I remember you all ):

Dear who I am not in with touch anymore and do not hate,

We were really good friends, but then things got weird between us. Maybe we ran out things to talk about (to my message buddy),maybe we had nothing to share (to my school friend,my best friend),to my we got back together friend (even though we are okay now, we are two very different people now), to my irritating school friend (I really wanted to get back and tried but your are the same weirdo, sweetheart).


me (who has changed and evolved into someone who does not share her ‘I need-to-brag-adventures’
But apart from the above letter, there is a positive side to it too; that is you can try. I did, tried a brunch date with an old friend, whom I had fallen out with. I did this recently and it worked, seem like we both have changed for good and can discuss things, enjoy food, and talk about our insecurities. Now that is something we should try if you really liked that person, just give them a message. Won’t kill you. I may or may not work. But, give it a shot!
The above story is just for you to get a motivated to track back or let go off your friends (does not work for romantic relationships ) Yes I am smiling now! Hah!

Caution Icarus

Caution Icarus


Caution-This post has informal, lucid and inappropriate language.

The fact remains that for human life to exist you need to socialise;to drink coffee and date (according to some). I clearly do not agree with the last one. Why is it so important; it is irritating to begin with,the idea of it. Plus in the normal crude way “I do not give a shit”.
Then again yes I believe you are capable as a human being of loving people

; then why not just get hitched or live in; or whatever nonsense you believe in. Just do not go around (doing stuff). You might just get syphilis. The idea of far from getting frustrated over relationships,over an insensitive partner.
Why is it so hard for people to stay calm and either enjoy their relationships or stay single and not just lie in-between,dangling (weird- word-usage) . Why do you have to get dark circles and have endless discussions. I believe “just put a ring on it” or die! perish!

You must have read about Icarus,whose father Daedalus makes him wing out of feathers and wax and warns him not to fly too close to the Sun or the Sea; and then we know what happens. But,interestingly two poets W.H Auden in Musee des Beaux Arts and William Carlos Williams in Landscape with Fall of Icarus , use Ekphrasis (poems responding to visual artefacts) ,so these two poets hang out ,have coffee and discuss “Lets use Bruegel’s ‘Landscape with the Fall of Icarus’,in which Bruegel is ruining Icarus’s moment of attention, let us do the same with our words what Bruegel did with his brush”. The plan was perfect and they did execute it particularly different styles. According to my skills of deconstruction, they got really pissed off with Icarus trying to obsess and ignore his father’s advice. Why was it so hard for Icarus to stay calm with his wings and not unite with the burning Sun or the lonely Ocean, why could not he be happy with his situation. The fact is like Icarus,we devils want to “unite” (pun intended) or cry about being “alone”,we just cannot stay happy or stable ,we tend to possess those free electrons which kill us (read-not me) into dating or doing crappy stuff. Hello! only if Icarus had this sense of flying in the calm air of stability,where he could consider either going to the Sun or landing on the brown soil;would have saved him from the ocean at least .
Now, what do you mean?

Well, search for stability and peace, do not kill yourself. If you are happy with the one. High Five.
If you are searching- stay calm and patient and if you feel terrible -do not rush into things like Icarus did;that only results in stomach ulcers and tears.

The idea is to love the Sun, love soil and stay away from the Ocean.

So, Shake It Off!
(great! too many metaphors)
The above writing was a result of a conversation with a friend -who is currently in the ocean.