Eating Dis ! Orders


The post is a prompt response .




We might all know what eating disorders are, or at least know that they exist.

What is important is how you treat the person who is suffering from one, or just accepting that you are suffering from one.


It is a person’s indifferent attitude towards food, or eating, or swallowing.


It might be linked to the body image issues the world is facing, but it might also be a result of anxiety, or some sort of depression.

What you have taken in, is exactly how you are going to feel about yourself. Which is why eating disorders dominate people’s lives socially, emotionally, and psychologically.

Depending on what type of eating disorder you have, it will affect the way you look at food.

It might seem to you as a bare necessity, and you are not comfortable swallowing it, or decide to starve yourself, or are not comfortable eating socially, all these symptoms are linked to Anorexia Nervosa.


With binge eating, consuming enormous amounts of food in a short period, which is related to both Bulimia and Binge-eating disorder, could be linked to social pressures, body shape, and weight issues.


The former is more common in people with anxiety issues, and the latter is common with people who are dying under social pressure of having a perfect body.


It could be cured by therapy, dietary counseling, maybe family could step in to help the sufferer. But, what is important is identifying the disorder, and acknowledging that you have one.


Eating disorder is not just a result of the societal pressure, it could also depend on the biological, genetic makeup, environmental factors. It could also depend on the kind of space a person occupies or the surroundings he is living in, and the people around, all of these are major contributing factors leading to eating disorders.


It could also present itself as an offshoot of the medication the patient is taking for some other condition, and may present itself as a side effect in the form of depression, and may lead to an eating disorder.


So, if you realize that you know someone who is suffering from an eating disorder, do not push them for their eating habit ,be considerate. Maybe you could be a part of their healing process.





Happy eating!







Of Poems

I can clearly see the traffic lights, the car lights, the crowd lights of the  street,

As I lay huddled inside my room.


I am thinking about the bus to Victoria that just went by

And I am thinking about poems and the poet


What is a good poem?


Is it a subjective domain? Or is it wrapped inside what you think the poet is, or who he represents, or what he does?


A poem about a political struggle may seem powerful but has its limits of making an impact

A poem about your lost land, romanticizing your character’s voice may seem appealing in the context of post -modern poetry. But, does not work anymore.

Or does it?

Last week I was moved to tears after I heard a poet. Heard words, but translated them into his native language.

So did words overtake me, or were the words reciprocating my social need of fulfilling my emotional ones.

In legal terms, when adjudicating a case, it is of prime importance, to list that case under the banner of, or categorizing it as a case where both the parties are aiming at the same goal, or are in a relationship which works on the principle of reciprocation (such as the institution of marriage).

And yes, the point is we link ourselves to a reciprocating relationship with the poems we come across. If it does fulfill what you are missing, you like the poem.

If not, you land in the world of contemporary poetry  which deals with social, economic meltdown ,hard times ,relationships, patriarchy ,love, system ,agency, sex, poverty ,the glaciers ,and the rules which you have binding towards, constitution you are legally entitled to and your emotional dispraises .


And I go back to watching the street lights .


Thank you!

I have a terrible headache .Nothing seems okay.

Oh by the way ! Remember my previous post,which also had a picture of a Maroon Lacy Bralette in it (which I am not telling you belongs to me). People kept messaging me,even stalked me on facebook,and tried calling me to ask me about the bra. Some abused me ,some were too embarrassed to share it with their friends;some even threatened me with some really dangerous *stuff*.

Wait ! Am I responsible that your kid subscribed to my blog and is getting to see stuff you are supposedly shielding him from ? No,I am not. Use parental controls sweetheart. Review and scan stuff your child has access to and then have the guts to call me.

Actually, you win !  Now that I know children are reading my blog,I do not know if I should feel happy or fear for my life.


To all those who appreciate what I write or stand for.Thank you !

Thank you ! for being there and helping me out.

To those who were sending me hate mails, well you just made me feel like a Victorian woman,who probably should write under a pseudonym. Thank you for suppressing me. You win!

Lord what is happening ! When my religion and my book are discussing woman’s needs,her obligations,sexual desires,menstruation .Then why are not children taught all that stuff instead of immersing them into a capitalist institution?

Ramadhan,the month when we Muslims fast has Alhamdulliah begun. Yesterday ,I could not fast ,courtesy my uterus . It decided to shed. Now ,some fourteen-year-old ,who probably should be aware of this and should know how to respect a woman,decides to call me “kafir”,a disbeliever,infidel.Becuase I told him I was not fasting for the obvious reasons. Becuase it was my time of the month. Then,it took me a while to realize,the little person who has access to  all the nonsense,all the websites,knows what porn is,knows what sex is ,and now probably knows how to demean women.

I was confused and shattered. I inadvertently searched for support.I still do not know what was I hoping for. If he were my brother or my son (which he thankfully is not) I would have given him “the talk ” ,which would have included how to respect your body and how to respect  a woman’s body . I am sure I know nothing about parenting,but I know what kids should know,I know feminism and I know how institutions are being created to kill it.

Well,go on tell me what you think. I still love the glorified souls as much as the ignorant ones.


Still love.




Bralettes ?



So,as I am taking my study break and going through my Facebook newsfeed,whilst munching on a chocolate chip cookie. I am dying of all this heat ,dehydrated and need some energy to survive.
My curls are dancing around,which is making me even more frustrated because they are touching and irritating my skin. Yes,that is my level of patience in 45 Centigrades.
Anyhoo, back to my newsfeed,I see three articles of interest :

1)A new advertisement campaign by Victoria’s Secret. So ,what is new this time is that they are asking women to shun their bras for bralettes . A brand that stuffs their bras with thick padding is suddenly asserting that you do not need it;and I am like okay ;yes,hello! What !
And I google the bralettes that are available online . So does La Senza have it? Maybe I should go to a mall and buy it. And then I look at myself and see a victim of postfeminist media trend . Yes,homies that is right . There are no footnotes to this article ,as I am sick of writing academic papers. So,a quick rewind; Bralettes are basically bras without padding and something which is a mix of a camisole ,bra,and a crop top. And what is Postfeminism , a trend that came ,according to me after the invention of contraceptives ,where women felt liberated and had sex like men(mocking every bit of it)? For further reference see all Carrie Bradshaw episodes,of Sex and The City . If not,then understand this;the media culture,most of the 1960’s started picturing women in the media, who are smoking ,and wearing power suits and at the same time at home doing laundry in a washing machine ,which meant that appliances are equivalent to happiness ;and that woman can have it all. They have achieved feminism and what they need to do is to juggle between their home and work . All these trends were basically ,patriarchal society giving agency to women ,but in a disturbing way,where women were made to believe that they need to use some product,or act in a certain way to show that they are empowered or liberated . Sexual freedom was actually nothing but a patriarchal structure that was constructed as a mirage by men to meet their own ends . For further reference see Foucault’s “History of Sexuality “ and the lovely Julia Roberts movie “The Mona Lisa Smile”.

So,is it relevant today?
Hell Yes!
If some Lingerie company is compelling me to look at myself in a certain way ,then yes it is. Will I use them,yes maybe,to see what the fuss is all about! A new cage for your girls !!
Say that to my D cups,says a friend !

The other two articles will be discussed in my next blog .

12912437_111446102589309_500483636_nYes,girls exist on this earth,rather co-exist with men,plants, and animals,and whatever you think grows on this planet;and their issues are as real as studying a plant’s mitochondria or global warming,and the love people hold for glaciers.
One of the things that top the taboo list is the menstrual cycle. We all know what it is;and if you are a guy reading this,go watch the lovely people of Buzz Feed and they will explain it to you. So,when we all acknowledge that this is something real,so why do we hide it!

I am not going to criticise our society or go on into the stigmas that it associate with it .

Anyhow , this article is for fellow shredders (if you know what I mean).
We have evolved and so has our technique of blocking the blood flow every month (my iPhone has saved it as Niagara falls;now you know what I call it)! We have evolved from sanitary pads to tampons and the cup.

I believe I wanted to share this with the fellow shredders or the new ones, what I think someone should have told me before I got my period or the first time I used a tampon.
If thrashing your kids about their grades is important,so is the part where you tell and discuss menstrual cycle,and the crap that comes with it,sex and hormones ,and so on. All these things are really important ,so that kids make the right decisions, that they are aware of what exactly is sexual harassment ,and why are they shredders,and how to stay away from STD’s.
Yes, take my advice when your kids are shocked and depressed,dying from Syphilis.

Without delay here is my list of what I should have been told before I got my period and before I used a tampon:

  • That it is okay not to use a plastic applicator.
  • That if you use a tampon instead of a pad ,you would not really have bad cramps ( yes that is true)!
  • That you should not hide your tampon in your sleeves,there is nothing to be ashamed of.
  • That borrowing a pad/tampon is the universal signifier of sisterhood ( made that up)!
  • That you do not have to freak out if you stain your clothes.
  • That you will be judged if you ask for tampons at your local grocery store.

Here is what I learnt on my own and for all for the fellow shredders:

  • That exercising helps you relieve cramps (unless you decide to leak and some person at your gym decides to tell you that you are leaking while you have your legs in the air; do not run away! It is all normal,happens to all).
  • That you do not care what the guy at the local grocery store thinks,you just want what you came for!
  • That tampons are perfectly safe and easy to use,less harm for the environment too,and you save money!
  • That your plans should not revolve around your period date . Do whatever you want to;of hiking on your second day. Big deal!
  • That Toxic Shock Syndrome is a real thing.
  • Discuss your issues,with your friends without being ashamed of anything . It is high time girl you break the patriarchal chains.
    Do whatever you want;lie like a log,jog or work. Menstruation ,tampons should no longer be a taboo in any society . Feel empowered and feel free to ask questions ;because that is an essential part of growing up!


Steps to those moments

It is considered a good thing when the progression of the mind towards happy things is caused by really small things. It could be a butterfly ,a breeze,smell of cinnamon ,smell of daffodils,new nail enamel,a new hair cut ,a phone call from parents,from friends ,appreciation of work from someone you do not really know,a smile from anyone !

I just gave you my list .

The thing is that in this harsh depressing world,the mortal beings keep searching and waiting for “big” things. So,what are those big things; maybe a great job,getting accepted into a great college ,your dream car,the trip you have been waiting for ,the bag you have been eyeing ,the house. Yes, please add whatever you want ,all these things maybe the way to happiness,but they are not. They give you anxiety ,working hard for something is okay ,and when you get it ,even better. But,placing the key to your happiness in those accounts,it is the worst mistake we all tend to make. All of these are materialistic events,the idea of possession comes along with it which was fostered by capitalist economy . It used to be “work hard and fulfil your desire of getting better at it”. Now it has turned to “to attain what you desire you might want to get into the capitalist race and work hard for all you might,but heart desires what it does”.
Now that you are the part of sad Capitalist economy,so what are your options really ?
Maybe you can start by working on what gives you peace ,and again join the prisons of capitalism but on your own terms. Then maybe you can use your monetary funds to survive,but would still know what happiness is ;in small moments ,your family,nature. I am not romanticising the idea of happiness by including “rays of sun” and the “pretty sunsets”. But,whatever makes you happy ,your coffee,your girl’s smile ,kiss from your partner ,travelling ,learning stuff ,decorating and creating things . Something which for the time being ,for a fraction of your day is not related to your money,which does not give you a nervous breakdown . For we will all end up in the soil we came from,with no material possessions,but memories of our moments ,our loved ones ;some stranger’s blessings,that feeling of ecstasy when you did something great ,but for someone else ;the laugh you shared ,the cry you had ;the prayer ;love for your creator ;love for the life he gave you to be grateful and happy for .

love and happiness

The Pashmina

Come let us make some small talk
Then end up kissing
Does it matter if we know each other,
Oh yes ,maybe to you
You obviously do not expect me to call back
Do you?
Well yes,stay away from me; I am obviously intimidating
Moreover, I can walk on you,
I have things to do,things to write,go places,buy pashmina
Which you know is soft ,because ,you know why
Cannot explain all the erotic strands to your hay brain and something else
You know people like singers and dance to their tunes,the piano ,the guitar
The music,of love and passion and all the ugly stuff
I want you to feel miserable ,I do not need what Freud thought women miss
Go rub your phallic symbol in your face
About pashmina ,buy yourself one , you will need it when I throw you to the land of icicles
Move away from the window, I need to take a drag and blow it your face
I want you to feel miserable
Hey, close that door after you!
Before you kill yourself
And it is soft, right?
The Pashmina